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OOOH ! School has resumed and some of my mates will start bullying me as they always do. When I report them to our class teacher, she will do nothing about it. I hate going to school.

They will start again. They used to talk to me anyhow and with words that I don’t like,” cried a child to her mother.
Bullying is now recognized as a widespread and usually neglected problem around the globe because it has severe consequences for children who initiate it and for those who are victimized by bullies.

According to analysts, bullying is usually seen as an aggressive behavioral pattern among school-age children and teenagers that implicates apparent power imbalance and also has a potential to be repeated over time. They further portray that children use their physical strength, access to private information, or popularity to intimidate, control or harm their fellow pupils or students at any given time. Usually, bullying comprises of actions like taunting, teasing, threatening to cause harm, names calling, spreading rumours about someone and embarrassing one in public.

Experts explained that a significant number of children prone to bullying come from families where there are little affection and devotion. In such families, parents may often be the example of inappropriate behaviour, such as aggressive acts towards friends, siblings or other family members. Therefore; children adopt such behavioural patterns and simulate it with their peers.
They further stressed that the young ones with such intimidating minds treat their fellow peers with contempt to make

themselves feel better. Most children do not do it intentionally but rather merely take an example from their parent’s behaviour. However, when the bully does not feel a resistance, he becomes overwhelmed with power and continues the action. He gets paid by gaining respect, attention and popularity, as well as the ability to make others afraid of them.

These inadvertently, strengthen bullying behaviour pattern and encourage the offenders to their fellow friends. Children who bully cannot regulate their emotions. In fact, anything can provoke and cause them to overreact severely.keep bullying their fellow friends. Children who bully cannot regulate their emotions. In fact, anything can provoke and cause them to overreact severely.

Unfortunately, according to research, kids who are bullied can experience negative physical, school and mental health problems such as depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. And this could linger up to adulthood.

The research also stressed that the child would even witness low academic achievement which include; resumption test, mid-term test and any other related test scores and school participation, as well as likely to miss, skip or drop out of school.which include; resumption test, mid-term test and any other related test scores and school participation, as well as likely to miss, skip or drop out of school.

Reacting on how they feel when bullied, a boy, Chinoso Nwosu,12, stated, “I feel very bad, distressed and powerless whenever I am being bullied. Sometimes, I feel like not being in the area or seeing them around me because it makes me uncomfortable “.

Ebelechi Omar, a nine year old girl, said, “My friends always like bullying me only because they feel I am obsessed but I am not. They call me all sorts of names that I don’t like. And sometimes, I feel like fighting back but anytime I try, they gang up against me”.

Chidimma Okoli,10, stated, “I just don’t like going to school because my friends always like tricking me into doing something that I don’t like doing and if I refuse, they will start threatening to kill me or sometimes, they will start beating me. I am tired of that.”

Kenechukwu Okeke,13, said,”some of my classmates hate me because they feel I am more intelligent than they do. Because of it, they fight me at any given opportunity even without doing anything to them. I have reported it several times to our class teacher but after warning them, they always continue only because I am helpless. Our teacher don’t always stay with us all the time, particularly when we go outside, “he lamented.

Mrs Florence Nwagu, a psychologist, maintained in her dialogue with National Light that children who bully others at any given time can engage themselves in violent and other risky behaviours into adulthood. “Such kind of person always gets himself or herself into fights, vandalizing property or even d as adults to enable them act the way they want at that particular moment.drop out of school. They could abuse alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults to enable them act the way they want at that particular moment.

They can also engage in early sexual activity, could possibly have criminal conviction and traffic citations as adults, as well as be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses or children as adults”.

Mrs Nwagu also suggested ways of fighting against excessive bullying at schools by advising teachers and parents to always stand up for pupils who are being bullied by taking necessary actions whenever bullying is reported to them than leaving it to the fate of the particular child.

“They should talk to other kids of the danger, consequences or implications if found in such act and the need to always report such deeds to their class teachers or even to their parents if need be, though it depends on if it happens around your home. And finally, instead of engaging in this kind of act, I advice children who finds it interesting to indulge in it to use such period to be creative and do something that will be useful to them.

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