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Become irresistible to your man



IF one loves someone, one develops deep affection for him or her. In other words, the lovers feel romantically and sexually attracted to each other. Love therefore is a very strong feeling of affection towards someone who one is romantically or sexually attracted to. One may say that our love for each other has been increased by what we’ve been through together. There is need to know some of the ways in which a woman can attract a man and make him irresistible. This is something that most women would love to know in order to keep their men for long.

Mrs Linda Ikemba, a civil servant, who has been married for 15 years, explained what it takes a woman to have a perfect life partner whom will always tell her the truth even when he seemed to have gone a wrong way in the relationship.

In an interview with a National Light reporter, she stated some romantic words every husband would love to hear every morning.

“Whether it’s a simple compliment to kick off his day or something deeper, these words of affirmation are the kind of stuff your man wants to hear every morning and saying them to him will really strengthen your bond. Start his day on a high note every day, and you’ll have a happy man on your hands 24/7.

“Tell him you’re lucky to have him: Men take great pride in feeling like they’ve bettered our lives. If you’re feeling lucky in love, don’t keep those thoughts to yourself. Open up and let him know exactly how you feel.

Smile more often: Smiling can make you look gorgeous and friendly. However, how hard a man tries to hide his joy over seeing you smile, your smile will always weaken him. Also, learn to appreciate often.

Tell him he’s a good father: Men are usually measured by how responsible they are for family and their homes. So it means a lot to men to hear that they are not messing up on that front especially when it comes to how the kids are being nurtured. This compliment reinforces their work and sacrifice for the family, increasing their desire to continue. That, in turn, strengthens the family unit and creates a bond of pride and greater involvement.

Learn to tease your man: This one is a bit tricky because there is a fine line between “good” teasing that drives a man crazy in a good way and “bad” teasing that makes a man frustrated and annoyed. If you are into him and feel sexually attracted to him, let the attraction build up by touching him gently throughout your interactions with him. Start with innocent touches and be very nonchalant and natural when you do it. For example, if you are sitting next to each other, you could kind of inch a tiny bit closer to him and have your leg against his leg and don’t say a word about it, just enjoy the moment. Or you could casually touch his thigh, as if it’s the most normal thing in the world.

Run your fingers through his hair delicately: This always works for all men. They love it when a woman or his lady slides her finger through his hair. More so, they tend to fall for this act in that, men themselves will mostly be found trying to touch a woman’s hair.

Apologise when you’re wrong: Women are famed for always wanting to be right even when they are blatantly wrong. It is a common thing to hear people say that a man must be willing and ready to apologise every time even if he’s not the one wrong.By reversing this silly rule, you show him that you are more concerned about making things right than with your ego.

Does Sex help to attract and hold a man in marriage?

Yes, there is need for making your husband feel satisfied in bed to make him feel amazing.

This is going to be a technical answer because I’m going to say words I don’t say too often. But I think women need this kind of help. I’ll still try to be tasteful! Because I know many single ladies will like to learn things about marriage. In any intimate relationship, It is always enjoyable to change positions for different stimulations that your man will remember and never hesitate to signal you for another ‘kwokirikwo’.

In some positions, you’ll feel tighter, which will be nice for him. In some, he’ll be able to go deeper. In some, he’ll be able to feel other parts of you more easily (which he may really like). If, for your own pleasure, you need to be in one position to climax, that’s okay! Just start in a different position. There are two particular positions that can really help.

Put your legs up higher

One of the things that make him feel amazing as a man or young guy is to be able to thrust in as deeply as possible. In the missionary position, if you put your legs up on his shoulders, this gives him the ability to thrust a lot more. If he’s in more of a kneeling position, you can even just put your legs up around his waist for a similar effect that may be easier to maintain, (keeping your legs up that high for that long can sometimes make them fall asleep).

Climb on top of your husband and take the pressure off

I’m not talking about taking physical pressure off. I mean taking psychological pressure off. When you’re the one on top, you’re more in control. In other positions, he’s the one doing the moving, and chances are he’s thinking about what he needs to do to make you feel good. In this position, you have most of the power, so you can think about satisfying him without him worrying about satisfying you. He can literally lie back and enjoy it! Also, he can use his hands in more interesting ways.

Squeeze him

He will love that and appreciate you for making him feel great. When you do that, you squeeze your vaginal muscles to learn how to control them. If you’re not sure of what those muscles are, they’re the same ones that you would use to cut off the flow of urine. You can do those exercises periodically, like squeeze five times every time you’re at a stop sign, for instance. Anyway, if you can learn how to use those muscles, then when he starts getting super excited, and close to climax, start squeezing him inside you rhythmically. It’ll put him over the top!

Squeeze his testicles gently

Speaking of squeezing, in certain positions like when you’re on top and your hands are free and more able to reach things, try putting gentle pressure on his testicles. You have to be careful with this one, and it depends on your man, but many guys enjoy this. You’ll have to ask him to teach you, and the pressure that he wants may vary depending on how close he is to climax. But ask him!

Have a quickie

Here’s another one to take pressure off! Every now and then, have sex just to see how fast he can be satisfied. The benefit is that he can totally enjoy you. And you get to see how powerful you really are.

Take it nice and slow, break up the pleasure

But for real pleasure, drag it out. Here’s how it works best. Think of your guy as having three stages during making love: getting going, super excited, and then transitioning to almost reaching climax. Learn how to identify each of those three stages. Then, when he’s almost at the transitioning stage, stop making love and switch positions or slow things right down.

There are several ways to handle this; order him to stop moving, make him stop, and he’ll likely almost want to cry. Now ask him to tell you what he wants to do. That will be exquisitely frustrating for him. Then, when you think he’s had enough, let him move again. Repeat as often as you like. YOU keep moving. You can also tell him he can’t move while you get to move.

Work things so they feel great for you, but not necessarily as intense for him. Then you can let him move again for a bit. Switch positions. When he seems super excited, stop, take a breathe, and switch positions.This makes the immediate stimulation go down a bit and drags everything out. When you drag things out, then he finally reaches to climax. It’s even more intense.

Whisper in his ear

To make sex awesome, try to use as many senses as possible. Use hearing. Whisper in his ear (whispering is really sexy). Even tell him in detail what you’re enjoying that he’s doing. And don’t forget to use his name. Hearing his own name coming from you, when he’s in the midst of incredible pleasure, is even more erotic because it’s so personal.

Leave the lights on to give a bit of the show

Speaking of senses, don’t forget to let him see you. Try starting out wearing something really lacy and revealing. Or leave the lights on so that he can enjoy watching you while you make love.

Let him see your face when you reach climax

Finally, here’s the most intense. It’s not intense physically. It’s intensely personal, and that actually makes us feel much closer emotionally, which translates into more intense making love sessions. Let him actually see your face when you climax. Also, look in his eyes. When we release the oxytocin “bonding” hormone when we make love, we feel so close. And when you can look right at him at that moment, it’s almost like imprinting with geese. You know how baby geese will think the first thing they see moving is its mother? Well, the thing that we see when we make love is what we’re more drawn to. So let him see your face. It’s really vulnerable and can even seem awkward. But it draws you together so much.

How can your mindset attract the man you want?

Manage your mood

Making your mood a priority is going to be a huge win for you when it comes to being more attractive.

That is true because men are instinctively attracted to happy women. When you are in a good mood, he feels this pleasant vibe when he is around you.

Men can sense your vibe and you don’t have to say anything to make it come across; in fact, the less you “try” to “prove” what a good mood you are in and the more you focus on actually being in a good mood, the better off you will be.

Have fun

Do things you enjoy. Take the time out to do fun things in your life where you can let loose and really laugh and have fun with things.Whether it’s going out with friends and having a good time or spending time with family and living life in a happy, fun way. Experience life in the moment and don’t dwell on trivial things that don’t matter.If you genuinely have fun and are happy, this automatically makes you more attractive to men. Men are attracted to happy women who can laugh a lot and are happy. Don’t fake it. This comes off as fake and won’t be attractive.

Don’t compare yourself to other women

I understand the instinct to compare yourself to other women and to other people in general. Maybe you see another woman and you think to yourself, “if only I had ….” (insert whatever it is that you wish you could change about yourself that she has).Take this mindset and put it aside.

My reason for saying this is because when you compare yourself, all you do is make yourself feel miserable and frustrated. The best thing to do is be your best self and focus on things you can control and improve upon. This will make you feel good.

Do what feels comfortable and know yourself

Self-discovery is an ongoing process that we all go through in our lives. We are always growing and changing as people.

This is an important step when it comes to being attractive; get to know yourself as much as you can and this will automatically make you feel more confident and comfortable.What I mean by knowing yourself is know your strengths and weaknesses and be able to identify what you are good at and what you aren’t naturally good at. These mindsets are going to automatically make you more attractive to men.

Can a lady attract a man she wants by her appearance?

Obviously physical appearance is a topic that has to be addressed when it comes to making a man attracted to you.It’s a fact of life. Men are human beings and are visual creatures. There are certain things a man is going to respond to whether he wants to or not. I’m only giving you this information to help you not to offend or be rude.

Make up

Every man has different preferences when it comes to makeup, but there is a consistent theme with what most men seem to find attractive. For me personally, I like it when a woman puts in effort to do makeup that enhances how she already looks but does not pile on the foundation and then add a bunch of different powders and what not to it.I have seen women wearing those huge fake eyelashes for example and then a ton of fake tanner on and so much makeup. It was obvious from a mile away and suppose some men do find this hot but most would prefer a little bit less.

With that said, a good application of makeup can certainly transform a woman’s look so definitely don’t be afraid to put on makeup.


I am not trying to say that every woman has to be skinny. But ignore saying that being as fit as you possibly can and making healthy eating choices (healthy eating choices not starving) is the key to looking your best.

Listen to your body; don’t try to look how you naturally can’t look without having to starve or be unhealthy. This is key. Healthy is hot.


Clothing can make a big difference when it comes to being attractive to men. Now, the main thing is that you wear clothes that fit your body well and accentuate your best assets. Now, I am not saying to go out in stripper heels and a non-existent dress that shows almost your entire body. Unless this is what you like and it makes you feel good, but don’t do that because you think it’s going to make men more attracted to you .To be honest, being too skimpy to a point of absurdity when you first meet a man actually might be a turn-off to some men.The ideal way to dress is a combination of sexy and leaving something to the imagination. But most importantly, find clothing that fits your body well and makes you feel good.


Every man has different preferences when it comes to hair and in general, all you really need to focus on is that you feel good about it.Whether it’s a simple, layered medium length cut or long hair or shorter hair… The point is that you feel good and make an effort when it comes to doing your hair.


Perfume is actually something that a lot of women over do. Most men do not like very strong perfume. You’re better off sticking with something very light and being very conservative with how much you spray. Being clean is obviously important and goes without saying in terms of smelling good. One thing most men agree upon is that women’s hair normally smells amazing from all the shampoo products and stuff. The point is very clear. Some ladies prefer keeping low cut hair. It all depends on how you often trim it to keep it neat and attractive. It will appear extremely sexy.

Touch yourself in front of him and let him watch

It would be extremely difficult to find a man who does not find this to be an insane turn on. I won’t really go into this further but I think what I said speaks for itself. Do it in the way that feels comfortable for you.

Be a lady in the streets and a “Freak” in the sheets

Yes. I actually said this because a woman can be presentable before her family and relatives but when she’s having some interactions, she brings out her entire different act of sexual side. Being able to truly let go in the bedroom is going to make it so much more fun for both you and him. Holding back out of fear of being judged and being awkward will only do a disservice to both you and him. I realise this may not be comfortable for you, but if you take baby steps and find a way to get truly comfortable “letting go” you will notice how much this turns a man on. Do what feels natural, not what you think you are “supposed to do.”

Make your pleasure a priority too

This is important. Some people only care about their own pleasure and others only care about the other person’s pleasure. What’s the most attractive way to focus on pleasure? Focus on both your pleasure and his. Make your own pleasure a priority without ignoring the fact that you want him to feel satisfied at the same time. Ignoring your pleasure is going to do you a disservice because not only will you be missing out on an insane amount of good feelings, but you will lose the opportunity to turn him on. Most men are turned on when they can make a woman feel genuine pleasure. And do not fake it because most men can tell.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself

When it comes to being attractive to men, all women are different in terms of what makes them uniquely attractive.

Some women are more innocent and cutesy, others more seductive and intense, others a combination of all these. Some are more outgoing and expressive; others are shyer and want a man to take control. Some women are completely unafraid to take control and others like to be dominated. The point is to find what you feel comfortable with and realise that some men will be extremely attracted to you and these particular aspects of your personality.

There is no use trying to be different than how you naturally are, because this is what men find most attractive; a woman who is being genuine and true to herself, her desires and her instincts.

Before you decide you need to know about the pivotal moment in any relationship that determines if you get to live happily ever after or he leaves you, so pay attention to this next step because it’s vitally important. At some point he will ask himself, is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? The answer to that will determine the fate of your relationship. Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling?”

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